Boundaries can be challenging to set. Especially for those who hold a "people pleaser" archetype and have difficulty disappointing others. A good tip is: when you are saying NO, consider: what are you saying YES to? Turn towards that and watch how your boundaries bring your life so much more flow and ease.
Boundaries can be a challenge to set, especially for those who identify as a "people pleaser" or have difficulty in disappointing others.
Do you ruminate on a boundary before or after setting it? Do you do or say things, or stay in things you don't want to, for far too long for fear of saying no?
I have a tip for you- see if you can focus on what you are saying YES to, when you are saying NO.
When you are saying NO, it's for a reason- to invite in more flow and ease, to take care of yourself, to honor your heart, time, needs, boundaries- instead of focusing on the "negative"- (ex: I need to say no to this "annoying, unreasonable" person) focus on what the No is opening for you (Ex: I'm saying yes to rest, ease and breath and lack of resentment for myself)
That is your POWER. In this perspective lies your Choice.
Use it and watch how your boundaries are more honored all together- because YOU are honoring them!
