Boundaries preserve relationships.
 

Sometimes one can feel boundaries are mean, or breaking, or abrupt, or harsh- especially if we experience disorganized attachment or carry wounds around rejection in childhood. We can feel afraid to set them and scared when we receive them, (feeling afraid of losing relationships or the reactions of others if setting them, or feeling rejected, lost, or abandoned if receiving them).

But boundaries are actually the portal in which we can keep love Alive.

Boundaries allow for the connection to live on, boundaries help avoid resentment, passive aggressiveness, or eventual cut-offs in relationships.

Boundaries are a relational keeper, the glue in which relationships can sustain themselves. When we are sustained- relationships are sustained, for if there is no ME, no Self, there is no one there to relate.

When we have our Selves, we can truly have relationships that are loving, joyful, real, and true.

Your boundaries do not need to make sense to anyone else but you.

When you leave the paradigm of enmeshment, you enter the paradigm of true LOVE, beyond people pleasing and fusion lies true connection, deep relationships and satisfying, enduring and amazing love.

Try it with your family, your friends, your loved ones, strangers. Think of boundaries as connective tissue as opposed to a breaking force, and watch as you and everyone around you feels more safe and loved in this world.