There can be a misunderstanding at times that love and boundaries are mutually exclusive, when in fact they are one and the same.

Boundaries are the container, the funnel, the safety, the holding, that allows the love to flow through.

Love without boundaries can create chaos, confusion, and murkiness.

Boundaries create safe spaces for love to land.

Individuation breeds connection. Co-dependency creates fusion.

We cannot be connected if we are fused. Only inside of our separateness can we see, and hear and know each other.

It is through individuation that we create true unity and oneness. That we return to wholeness and true inter-being.

We can truly know each other when we can truly feel and know our Self.

Avoidance is not real boundaries.

Avoidance and fusion in relationship are actually both fusion. They are two sides of the same coin.

Anything that has "extra charge" around it that makes us attach (or un-attach) in ways that are not functional, regulated, or fully true means we are fused and enmeshed with it in some way.

Un-fusing, or individuating means coming into real, communicative, caring connection—first with Self and then with others.

We are our own homes, before any person or place. When we learn that, when we know that in our bones—we are always Home.

We are our own "source to Source", the creator, the Source of all things. When we learn that, when we know that in our bones, we are always Home.

Boundaries create safe spaces for love to land.